Worried?
What do people tell you when you mention that you are frustrated or worried about something? Do they say, “Trust the process!” or “Stop worrying and have faith that things will eventually work out in their own time”? Have you personally told anyone to trust the process, to stop killing themselves with worry and let things work out? Do you ever think that the people around you are accomplishing things and growing but you are not seeing any changes in your life and you just cannot help but worry because everyone else seems to have their life in order? Then you on the other hand are seeing things not going exactly like you planned? Enough with the questions! No one likes being asked so many questions, but I am sure you or someone you know has expressed worry or frustration at a certain point.
The thing about worry is that it keeps you aware of what is happening to others and not happening to you. It makes you want to see a change and get a few wins here and there. If you have felt this way, you are still normal and just like everyone else so you can now breathe! We are creatures that crave for the feeling of accomplishment. We thrive off it and if things are not happening in our favor, we get frustrated, and start to think that maybe we have not accomplished anything. We constantly want to grow and know that we are doing something meaningful with our lives.
Have you noticed that sometimes, you are very happy and sure that you have everything figured out? You feel that you are on the right path and then next thing you know, you fall off, go back to past habits, fall off the good routine and start noticing that you might not be doing enough to accomplish your goals. You might even start thinking of getting new perspectives or new motivation so that you can see growth and change by doing something with your life. It is all still part of growth and human nature. At least that is the good news, right?
You took time to read this article and I think that I need to be honest with you. I have had the same desire to see progress in the past and I have no doubt that I will still have the same desire in the days to come because it is a human emotion. Sometimes, I think I have everything figured out and, on those days, I feel fulfilled, I sleep better at night and even sing songs out loud. Then there are days when I yearn for something more. When I know I need something to change in my life. When I badly need a win or to contribute to something that will matter because I seem not be doing enough.
To you the person reading this, should someone tell you that they feel frustrated or stagnant, tell them this, “It is a human emotion and it is okay” Let them know if you have felt the same and share that experience with them. Assure them that it is an emotion they will go through and still get back on track.
Like me, if you have felt this way, you should know that you are not the only one. It is a human emotion after all so you can relax and look out for ways to get through that emotion the next time it comes. Personally, when I feel this way, I try to remember the time when I felt accomplished and I hold onto that hope that I will be better with time. I try to silence the worry around me by asking myself if I can control what is happening. If the answer is no, I read a few bible verses for encouragement. I write down the things I am grateful for and reassure myself that It is all okay.
If you experience this emotion, remind yourself that it is all part of growth. You are the master of your soul. There are some days when you will feel good because everything is going well, and you are on the right track of achieving all you want to. There are also days when you will feel static and that your life is not going exactly like you planned. Embrace all the emotions and remember that It all gets better. Look forward to the time when you will feel accomplished again and hold onto those emotions. Reassure yourself by saying, “I am the master of my soul; I choose how I react to what happens.” You do not know what will happen next but in the meantime, put your worry aside, take a sip of water and choose hope. Tomorrow we will be laughing at how we worried about the tiniest things.
